ctdb-tcp: move free of inbound queue to TCP restart

ctdb-tcp: move free of inbound queue to TCP restart

Since commit 77deaadca8e8dbc3c92ea16893099c72f6dc874e, a nodeA which
had previously accepted a connection from nodeB (where nodeB dies
e.g. as as result of fencing) when nodeB attempts to connect again
after restarting is always rejected with

 ctdb_listen_event: Incoming queue active, rejecting connection from w.x.y.z

messages.

Consolidate dead node handling in the TCP restart handling.

BUG: https://bugzilla.samba.org/show_bug.cgi?id=14295

Signed-off-by: Noel Power <noel.power@suse.com>
Reviewed-by: Ralph Boehme <slow@samba.org>
Reviewed-by: Martin Schwenke <martin@meltin.net>
(cherry picked from commit 0ff1b78fc2f0491f9e11131d0040bdaba8873770)